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Acceptance - a moment in time

Acceptance is a very powerful word, and one that often has a real influence on our direction and our future. The things that happen, the events that occur and how you react or respond to them helps to shape who you are and where you are going.

Sometimes we react against things, fighting against what we believe and consider to be wrong, inappropriate or unsuitable. Typically, this reaction relates to things that have been, or that have occured. Sometimes it also relates to things and events that are on the horizon, pending or about to occur.

In traditional psychology, pundits talk of 'flight or fight' as a response to things that affect or are likely to affect us in a 'bad' way - there is no obvious space here for doing nothing and simply accepting things as they are.

Acceptance often brings peace of mind, no matter what the situation. Provided you are able to see fear for what it is, acceptance helps you to breathe. When you breathe, you often find that you can see things more clearly, there is more clarity about what is going on. As a result, you are able to consider what is happening in a better way, free of anxiety, panic and fear....then maybe the decisions you make on how to handle the situation you are in are better..

Sure, once you have passed that feeling of acceptance, the decisions you then make on the issue may involve reacting to the issue in front of you, and not accepting things as they are.

 However, in that single moment of acceptance, you will find that your mind will settle and that you will reach a decision far more appropriate than a decision made without it.

See you soon
Peter
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