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Who moved my cheese and the fear of failure..

Every week is an interesting one at the moment. The global economic crisis (or GEC as it is now being labelled) has affected almost everyone on the planet one way or another. It reminded me of the fact that the fear of not being in control can be our achilles heel. That fear of not being able to control the events in our lives can often be related to a fear of failure, especially when other people around us are moving things in a direction that makes us feel uncomfortable or out of our depth - the book 'Who moved my cheese' is a good one to pick up if you suffer from this phobia.

More often than not, the people or changes to our lives that we most fear are the ones who can and will give us the most benefit, they are the ones that get us up off our butts and actually help us to 'shine', they are the ones that stretch us and help us to grow. In my life, these people and events are characterised by a feeling of fear, immense fear - they have on a couple of occasions brought me to tears as I accept what is happening and agree to take a leap forward into the arms of the person challenging me or the change that is occuring. Achieving our ultimate dream and success is scary...

What I have learnt is that to accept those fears, those changes and challenges is what shows us who we can be, what we can achieve. Acceptance of them is exhilarating (I am not kidding), acceptance brings freedom and release. Acceptance is a simple step.

Namaste

Peter
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